Maintaining a Great Relationship with Your Husband Post-Kids

A few months ago, my friend Kaitlyn asked me to write a few posts for her. One of those was on maintaining a strong relationship with your spouse after kids. I ran across this post yesterday and realized I hadn't shared it on my blog. You can read the original post on Kaitlyn's blog by clicking here.

It's so important to maintain a great relationship with your husband after kids. In fact, I think maintaining a healthy and loving relationship with your spouse is one of the greatest gifts you can give your kids as well as one of the most important things you can teach them.

As you know, when I got married, I not only became a wife, I also became a mother. I didn't have a true adjustment issue because in reality, once Kevin and I started dating, we started doing everything as a family. The only things that officially changed were my last name and address and the whole marriage thing. With that said though, my husband and I both know how important it is that we keep our relationship and connection strong.

Life with children is busy. (Who am I kidding? Life without kids is busy!) There's the juggling of schedules, the extracurricular activities, the things at church and homework that has to be done, not to mention those other things that are given, too, like eating, bathing and household chores. And if you're like us, you want to spend good quality time with your children every day that doesn't involve soccer practice and writing the alphabet.

For us, I think the key is balance. For the most part, we do pretty much everything together. My husband doesn't race, but he's always there at the finish line. I'm not a big fisher, but I love being out on the water just spending time with him. Plus, there are some times the boys aren't at home with us which means we have time for just the two of us - automatic date nights. For us - me at least - I think learning how to carve out that time for just my husband and me is something that we all have to work on continually when we become parents.

I strongly believe (and know) that in order for me to be the best mother I can be, I need to be the best wife I can be. That means taking time to talk with my husband about his day (and he does the same for me), sending an e-mail or text during the day just to let him know I'm thinking about him and planning time for just the two of us to do something whether it be dinner and a movie out or staying in and just having fun together. 

I'm very fortunate that I married an amazing man. He's someone who understands the true meaning of partnership, who puts us and our family first and he knows the importance and value of time spent together. Our family only gets stronger as we grow even stronger as a couple.

Here are some of my tips for maintaing a healthy, close and intimate relationship with your husband no matter the ages of your children (and it even applies to those of you who don't have kids!). This list isn't in any particular order because I think all these things are important!

I'm sure there are a million and one things left off of this list - I'm learning all about marriage and motherhood at once. Be sure to share your tips - I'm all for learning more!